Be Creative to YOUR Situation

My husband is a naturally generous and giving person, so it really doesn't take a lot of prodding to get him to do things for me or the children. He also has a keen sense about things and can tell when I'm "doing too much".

Today, he was really sweet about skipping a few hours of work so the children and I could get some things done. When we got back home at the end of the day, I thanked him for it. I said; "Thank you for sacrificing part of your day for me and the children today, I really appreciated it." He kissed me on the forehead, then I said "You're so generous with your time". I was serious, but I KNEW that was taking it too far. He sort of laughed and said "Alright, don't go overboard".

Darn it!!! I knew that was too much! Lesson learned. In applying the principles, you have to know YOUR husband and you have to make sure your words are sincere and true to YOUR personality. You can't recite everything from the book just because she says so if it's not something you would normally say. That's not to say don't say them, it just means get creative, put them into your own words and do it in your own way. Your husband will be able to tell if you're being insincere or patronizing.

So, like I said, lesson learned. I'm going to have to really think the rest of this stuff through. My husband knows I'm reading the book, but I didn't want him to know I was being prompted by the reading. My plan: stay focused, stay on track, keep going. If he does think I'm being prompted by the book for things to say, then I'm going to have to prove to him that I do mean them. I told him at dinner that I would not try to change him anymore, so I won't, and I told him that I was working on me now, so I will continue to show him that I doing that. I will continue to listen to him, and show my appreciation for his virtues. I will be consistent in my efforts so that he will see that I am sincere.

He is a good husband, and I want to continue striving to be a good wife for him.